Booking an escort can be intimidating for many reasons. One of the most common reasons is the fear that the provider you’re talking to might actually be a scammer, a catfish, or otherwise “shady”. This is a scary prospect, and I can understand why it causes significant anxiety in some clients! However, if you’ve done your due diligence in finding a reputable provider, your chances of getting scammed are actually extremely low. Legitimate providers have far more to gain from a successful booking and new client relationship than from trying to trick you.
But how can you be sure a provider is legitimate? The answer is simple: research!
It might seem like it takes a lot of time and effort to research a prospective provider, but in fact, all it really takes is know-how. Once you know what signs to look for, doing your research before booking an escort can be easy and quick. Even I, as an escort myself, have to research other escorts quite often—when a client supplies a provider reference as their method of screening, it’s important for me to make sure the contact information they’ve given me belongs to a real provider! And it really doesn’t take more than 5 or 10 minutes at most.
These are the steps I follow (and you’ll probably find they work pretty well for you, too):
- Google the escort’s name + title. If they’re established in the industry, this should bring up an ad on one or more reputable sites—or better yet, a personal website belonging to the provider themself.
- Check for related social media profiles. If the escort’s website and ads link to at least one active social media page, this is a good sign that they’re legitimate and actively working. (Though keep in mind that social media is never an appropriate avenue for booking requests!)
- Check that the escort’s contact information across platforms is consistent. Hopefully, the escort’s entire web presence is sufficiently interlinked to establish that it’s all the same (legitimate) person. That said, the most critical thing I need to check for is that the contact information I have for them is the same as the contact information listed on their ads & their site. (If the client that’s claiming this escort as a reference provided me a different phone number/email than the escort themself lists on their ads & website, that’s obviously a big problem!)
The basic research steps that a prospective client should follow are quite similar. As an example for the purpose of this blog post, let’s pretend that I’m an excited but nervous client who’s interested in booking with a smoking hot escort named Jen Silva (ooh la la). We’ll say that I found Jen’s information through MegaPersonals, a directory site that’s popular in the USA but also known for having problems with scam posters. While plenty of legitimate providers do post ads there, I’ve also heard that I should watch out for catfish accounts with stolen photos.
I like Jen’s pictures a lot, but I’m worried they might not actually be of Jen. Or worse, what if there is no Jen, and this whole listing is made up? Without more information, I’m way too nervous to reach out to her and provide my own personal info for screening. I might be tempted to text Jen and ask her for more pictures or a free FaceTime call to prove that she’s real, but this is actually a very impolite request—not to mention an unnecessary one. I can find all the information that I need if I just follow the research steps above!
1. Google the escort’s name + title.
Jen’s MegaPersonals ad lists her name, location, and phone number.
If I google “Jen Silva escort”, these are the top 3 results:
- The first hit is a Tryst.link ad. Tryst.link is well known as a reputable listing website which requires providers to verify their information before they can post an ad. So far, so good!
- The second result is Jen’s website (which should look pretty familiar to you if you’re reading this blog post). A personal website is a great sign that an escort is legitimate and takes their business seriously.
- The third result is from ListCrawler, an aggregator site that pulls listings from other sites like MegaPersonals. Since I found Jen’s info on MegaPersonals in the first place, this makes sense.
2. Check for related social media profiles.
Jen’s Tryst ad, website, and Listcrawler listing all link to the same Bluesky account: @jensilva.com. By visiting the profile, I can see that Jen has a substantial posting history and was last active less than a week ago.
It even has additional pictures of Jen that don’t appear in her ad, but clearly depict the same person.
The fact that Jen has an active social media presence is a good sign, not to mention that it’s linked consistently across Jen’s ads—which brings me to the next step…
3. Check that the escort’s contact information across platforms is consistent.
Jen’s website, Tryst ad, and Listcrawler listing all list the same phone number I originally saw in Jen’s MegaPersonals ad: +1 (512) 543-0243. This means I can be confident that if I text that number, I’ll reach the real Jen!
Hopefully this blog post has helped to demystify the process of researching an escort that you’d like to see. Armed with this knowledge, you can now go forth with confidence and reach out to that provider that’s caught your eye—just don’t forget to read their booking instructions, first 😜
Sources / Further Reading:
What if it’s a scam?’ How to Book an Escort Successfully
How to Find a Safe Provider via R/SexWorkers
